First Thoughts on Pluto in Synastry

When I was asked about Pluto in synastry that question started this amazing upwelling of information . . . so here’s a big Thank You to the person who asked! In fact, there is so much coming up from the depths of my mind I may be at this for awhile . . .

First, it is necessary to remember Pluto is a major player (ignore those deluded folks who reclassified him as a dwarf planet) among the outer planets. The nature of the outer planets and the impact they have on us poor humans is profound and often difficult to discern and articulate. The only reason I’m attempting this is because Pluto by transit has conjuncted every single planet in my chart except Uranus and he opposed that. I’m sure there are a lot of other people out there who have shared this experience but as an astrologer I’m probably most compelled to use those experiences to help others understand just what the hell happened to their carefully crafted lives!

As always we need to look at how Pluto operates in our own charts first before we can look at how he works in synastry. Those of us with lots of Scorpio, loaded 8th Houses or Pluto in aspect to the personal planets and Ascendant, all have at least a starting point. My recommendation is to take note of where you are obsessing about something or someone, or having someone obsessing about you – then stop feeding energy into that. And personal experience says that is HARD sometimes! However, unless we can shine some light in those areas and apply good old fashioned common sense, we will continue to beat our heads against the wall of those obsessions. Liz Greene has written some amazing information about Pluto in her book, “The Astrology of Fate”. Reading that was very helpful for me in identifying and reducing my obsessions to a manageable level. “Manageable” is the key as the darn things are not going to disappear and blow away. So all you high-minded sorts that would prefer to remain above all that . . . not going to happen and it will only make things worse.

When it comes to relationships and Pluto we have to prepare ourselves to be an honest as possible about our motives and expectations. If a person has Pluto in the 7th House natally, they are just about guaranteed to find themselves dealing with control issues in their one-on-one relationships. Pluto/Moon aspects natally will often translate for men as seeing women as ball busting bitches, sad to say. And for women, well, that can emerge as this horrifying desire to run someone else’s life done to the tiniest detail. The way I see it these urges can end up eating up so much time and energy, there is nothing left for simply enjoying life as a couple. This is why I keep going back to the theme of getting to know, understand and accept ourselves first before running out and jumping into relationships. Being Libra, I have to say . . . on the other hand . . . there is the school of thought that says we learn by doing!

There will be much more forthcoming but for now, I’d like to pay homage to Pluto, Hades, Kali, Erishkagal and the many faces of that part of Life where something must be destroyed to make way for the possibility of renewal. By surrendering ourselves to this aspect of the cycle of being, we can open ourselves up to transformation as expressed by the Phoenix.

This is a painting done by David A. Hardy titled “Pluto and Charon” . . . simply stunning! To see more go to:


3 responses to “First Thoughts on Pluto in Synastry

  1. With a Pluto/Moon opposition, I’ve found that I often give up my power and let the man run my life precisely bc I’m terrified of becoming one of those overbearing, controlling women (like my grandmother was with me). That doesn’t work so well either. It’s one of the most difficult aspects too bc it’s the linchpin of my chart.

  2. I have never felt the true meaning of obsession until I began a romance with someone where we have the following Pluto contacts: My Pluto closely sextiles his Moon, Mercury, Venus and Neptune, and is conjunct his Ascendant. His Pluto is conjunct my MC and sextiles my 8th house Venus and squares my 7th house Mars and Jupiter. In the month since we confessed our feelings for each other (we were friends for two years before that), my entire identity has exploded (as has the committed relationship I’ve been in). I feel we can’t hide anything from each other, but our many Neptune contacts also make us wary of what may be delusional attachment. Something feels terribly _true_ between us, but what that may be we can’t say.What is unavoidable is the feeling of fire – passion that can either charge or destroy, but there is nothing gentle or gradual here. In the interest of centering ourselves and being intact people again, we’re taking space from each other. Yet I’m grateful for the realizations and changes he’s brought into my life, chaotic and painful as they’ve been. The hardest trick, now, is to stop thinking about him.

  3. In the interest of centering ourselves and being intact people again, we’re taking space from each other. Yet I’m grateful for the realizations and changes he’s brought into my life, chaotic and painful as they’ve been. The hardest trick, now, is to stop thinking about him.Yes, Pluto definitely has his hands ALL over that relationship. Ouch. I found an affirmation in Donna Cunningham’s book, “Healing Pluto Problems” that I have used successfully. It goes like this:”Bless ‘name’ and release him to his higher good.”What worked for me was saying this to myself while I was falling asleep and on an “out” breath. In fact, every time you find yourself obsessing about him, say it. This way you will use Pluto’s ability to intensely focus to your benefit!If you would be interested in getting more feedback or having a short synastry report down, please use the following link to contact me:contact info for neith

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