First, I wish to thank all of you who offered me material for future posts on how synastry works in real life. In fact, I was surprised at the response though I don’t know why . . . loving and being loved is central in most people’s lives, in my observation. It sure is in mine and has been all my life!
I thought I would share a simple method I use for getting a feel for what’s going on between two people’s charts. What is interesting is how accurate this method often is. I’ve been attempting to remember where I first came across this idea but for once, my so retentive Mercury in Scorpio memory hasn’t brought the info to the surface. It was many years ago when I found this that much I do know.
This method is based on Sign only, no degrees, no birth time or place required – just access to an ephemeris. Astro.com has a great one available on the home page of their website. Here is a link to the ephemeris page: 6,000 year ephemeris What you do is compare the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars of each individual. I will see if I can get an example posted in table form:
Individual “A” Individual “B”
Sun in Aries opposite Moon in Libra
Moon in Aries opposite Sun in Libra
Moon in Aries opposite Moon in Libra
Mercury in Aries inconjunct Mercury in Scorpio
Mars in Scorpio semi-sextile Venus in Sagittarius
Venus in Pisces t rine Mars in Scorpio
Yes, this is me and my S/O. As you can see this is largely a relationship of complements – and since we’ve been together for 17 years, happily I might add, so it works. The key to the opposition aspect is to always remember the Signs involved are in compatible elements. Plus it does seem to work better between partners of the opposite sex for some reason. The most problematical aspect is the inconjunct between our Mercury’s. Aries is Cardinal Fire and Scorpio is Fixed Water . . . and I swear the man is talking in a foreign language sometimes! What helps here is having my Mercury on my ASC, giving it prominence in my chart and Scorpio is a natural at sussing out meanings. Otherwise, we would be scratching our heads wondering what the heck the other person just said more often.
Give this method a try with your partners, family members, friends, etc. I did as many of my family as I had birth dates for and was fascinated how accurate the results were. A curious aside: Cancers tend to stay in relationships where others would have left long ago. They seem to like being with someone whose Sun or Moon squares theirs. Anyone have any thoughts as to why this is?
As a general rule of thumb, squares between the luminaries are the most problematical, followed by the inconjunct. This has to do with the Signs being in traditionally incompatible Elements making it difficult to understand the other. Since the Moon is all about ingrained habit patterns and our automatic emotional responses, it makes the path to compromise that much harder. Now Venus/Mars squares can add excitement . . . Mercury squares vary with the individuals response to challenges. Some people enjoy a good “discussion” and others dislike them very much.
Have fun with this and give us feedback if you wish!