This post is in response to a question of one of my readers. She is finding a growing attraction to a co-worker and is in the process of deciding what to do about her situation. She’s been married for many years and feels there is little left for her in the marriage. She is a Capricorn whose Sun is at 3 degrees and is beginning to experience Pluto’s transit to her Sun. Her husband is a 29 degree Cancer Sun and her co-worker is a zero degree Libra Sun. Yes, her co-worker is also being affected by Pluto by transit as is her husband.
I looked at the synastry between the various parties using my short-hand method and it was immediately apparent why she feels so comfortable with her co-worker. They both have Moon in Sagittarius so it makes sense they would enjoy the same day to day activities and know what to do to make the other feel liked and appreciated. Their Mercury’s are trine – her Mercury is in Capricorn and his in Virgo. Again this is a plus for ease of communication as they have harmonious patterns of thinking. There is chemistry between them too with her Venus in Scorpio & his Mars in Scorpio – yes, that would be an understatement!! With his Venus in Libra and her Mars in Leo adding to the energy exchange, it’s more than obvious there is a strong pull there.
The exchange between their Suns & Moons is OK too. Her Capricorn Sun is semi-sextile his Sagittarius Moon and his Libra Sun is sextile her Sagittarius Moon. Sextiles are what I consider a “friendly” aspect because the signs are in compatible elements, in this case Fire & Air. Semi-sextiles are between neighboring signs and have at least an understanding of each other though they are in different elements. The semi-sextile in this case is easily balanced by the rest of positive aspects.
With her husband, the flow is there but no where to the degree it is with her co-worker. His Cancer Sun is inconjunct her Sagittarius Moon and her Cappy Sun is square his Libra Moon. They do have a sextile aspect between their Moons making it easy for them to share a home. However there is another inconjunct between their Mercury’s – his is in Leo and her in Capricorn. The inconjunct or quincunx is a tough aspect to reconcile because the Signs are not in compatible elements and they tend to be very different in nature. There are moments when it works but then you hit one the places where the teeth in the gear are missing and things grind to a halt.
As to be expected, there is some chemistry between these two. His Mars in Taurus is opposite her Venus in Scorpio and her Mars in Leo is semi-sextile to his Venus in Cancer. Please note they have a square between their Mars Signs . . . in Fixed Sign no less. This can indicate a stalemate when it comes to deciding how to go about something.
I did check for clues as to why she married him initially with some interesting results. She did not have an exact birth time for him so we couldn’t look at the Vertex or the Angles. However, his Cancer Sun is exactly conjunct her North Node in Cancer – always a strong connection between people. Plus his Saturn in Sagittarius is conjunct her Moon. This is often as aspect that can feel extremely comforting and supportive on first meeting. It is only over time that the Saturn person can start to feel constrictive and authoritarian to the Moon. His Mars in Taurus is exactly conjunct her Midheaven and I see this as a repeat of the pattern of Saturn/Moon. He represents authority and security to her . . . or at least he did when she was much younger.
As I stated I am not going to offer advice or make any judgments about this situation. I’m sure it is difficult for all parties and I wish them all well and a peaceful and happy resolution. When Pluto moves into Capricorn after the first of the year, they will have plenty to think about . . .