Couple has been together 19 years . . . Why?!

This question came from Scorp. She and her S/O have had an on again, off again relationship for 19 years and she is curious about what I see in the astrology of this relationship.

She has a Scorpio Sun (obviously . . .), Moon in Aquarius and her S/O is a 29 degree Leo Sun with Moon in Virgo. Her Sun is sextile his Moon and his Sun is opposite her Moon . . . all good, solid indicators for a good energy exchange between the luminaries. However, their Moons are inconjunct so this may be why living together has its glitchy moments. Since his Moon is 1 Virgo, Saturn hit it by transit during the early part of September bringing the differences to the forefront.

Her Mercury in Scorpio is square his Mercury in Leo which leads me to suspect there is a certain amount of drama in their verbal exchanges – and some stalemates as Fixed Sign Mercury’s can be quite stubborn in their opinions. I know, I have one . . . =grin=

There is good sexual chemistry with trines between their respective Venus to Mars exchanges – one in Air and the other in Earth. As Pat Paquette pointed out, good sexual chemistry is very beneficial to a lasting relationship.

Now to some other particulars that illustrate why a deeper analysis can enrich the understanding of the whys. They have an intra-aspect (same planets in aspect between the charts) with Moon to Jupiter. Her Jupiter is conjunct his Moon in Virgo and his Jupiter is sextile her Moon in Aquarius. To me this says they simply like being with the other person. There is an inherent generosity and willingness to give the other the benefit of the doubt with Jupiter/Moon aspects. It is possible they can end up laughing over some point of contention and clearing the air.

For staying power, we look to Saturn aspects and his Saturn is sextile her Sun and conjunct her Mars. Now the Sun/Saturn sextile usually reads as feeling supportive in a friendly manner but the Saturn/Mars conjunction can feel like the Saturn person slams the brakes on the Mars person . . . but it’s also a strong binding aspect. Perhaps that is a factor for Scorp needing some time alone to get a breathing space.

They also have a Uranus/Sun intra-aspect and that REALLY suggests on again, off again. His Uranus is square her Sun and her Uranus is semi-sextile his Sun. This is a setup that is about sudden changes of direction and both of them can pull a classic Fixed Sign maneuver of abrupt changes. Fixed Signs dislike changes in routine (understatement) so they get it over with as fast as possible and settle into their new routine as if nothing ever happened. Another way to look at the Uranus/Sun intra-aspects is to note this is a relationship where they allow each other a lot of personal freedom too. Sometime so much freedom they can wander away from each other for periods of time.

Since they’ve been together for almost 20 years, I’d say they have discovered a rhythm to relating that works for them. Good Luck, Scorp, and here’s too many more years together!!

Seeing as this is for a Scorpio, I choose this tarot card. ;-D
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12 responses to “Couple has been together 19 years . . . Why?!

  1. Wow. I’m most impressed. I must say had I read this 19 years ago, I would never have married him. There are many times when we just wonder what the hell we are doing together. But we do like each other and we do give space. I NEED space, loads of it. He doesnt. That part was hard for the first 7 or so years, but we worked through it. Wow.. amazing how astrology works. We do wander from time to time for long stretches (ok, me). And YES, changes in this household are rough! We also have two taurus teens. Three folks who hate change, I’m not one of them, mostly. That part has always been a struggle and I mean with the simplest of things, like ditching housework to go to the beach! He can dig in his heels, then caves at the last second when I am pulling out of the driveway with or without him. He does end up having a good time, not with out griping about it for 15 or so miles. This is a great time for laughter, I suspect he does it just for kicks to see me laugh.LOL! drama in exchanges.. puhlease, I married a leo, of course! He doesnt know how to do it any other way. 🙂 Sex? Yeah, its good, really good.But yeah, we have things worked out pretty well.. and yet we have quite a ways to go. Thank You!

  2. Thank you, thank you!! 😀 Astrology is a most amazing art/science. It’s kind of like working on mechanical devices for me….get everything in the right place, and “vrrooomm”, the engine starts! Mars in Scorpio is good at that kind of thing.Hey, did you notice the man on the card has hairy buns?! LOL!!

  3. ROFL! I did! Actually, that card is perfect.My man is dark and hairy..lolI’m fair and not so hairy. 🙂 I cant wait to show the hub this post. He will get a kick out of it.. especially for one who tries to ignore astrology.

  4. I cant wait to show the hub this post. He will get a kick out of it.. especially for one who tries to ignore astrology.He’s a Taurus, what more needs to be said!! 🙂 My husband is an Aries and generally ignores the whole astrology thing too . . . except to note that I make money from it! ha, ha, ha!

  5. Great analysis, Neith!Hey, did you notice the man on the card has hairy buns?First thing I saw. My husband is an Aries and generally ignores the whole astrology thing too. In my experience, the signs least likely to believe in astrology are Aries and Capricorn.

  6. Great Interpretation Neith!Show us more hairy buns!ROFL!!! who knew those would be the hit!! :-DAnd thanks to you & Pat for the compliments . . . we all learn from each other.

  7. Just came back! LOTS here for me to catch up with!!! Wow!!! Tomorrow, as it is now bedtime in my time zone… Do want to report that THE BOY and I bonded big time over the weekend and I laughed throughout, thinking of you… (The Universe obliged, with a number of whoppers to deal with, and we all know that two people tackling adversity together is prime bonding territory. *grin*)

  8. Do want to report that THE BOY and I bonded big time over the weekend and I laughed throughout, thinking of you… (The Universe obliged, with a number of whoppers to deal with, and we all know that two people tackling adversity together is prime bonding territory. *grin*)Ha, Ha, Ha! Good job!! I bet you have a good way with you when it comes to dealing with boys. Know when to detach and let ’em step out on their own . . . 😀

  9. Have you ever seen those nature films of a red and and a black and fighting? The one where the red ant gets his head ripped off, but the head keeps biting and fighting anyway?Ah, soulmates. 😉

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