In this situation after looking at the charts of these two Aries Sun people, I have decided to look a little deeper into the chart of the woman who requested feedback about the possibilities of a relationship with an Aries Sun man she works with. She is attracted to him but the relationship doesn’t seem to get off the ground and she’s wondering why.
With an Aries Sun, Sagittarius Moon and Leo Rising, this is a fiery woman! She is most likely comfortable with taking the chance of expressing her interest in someone. However, her Mercury is in Taurus, Mars is in Capricorn and her Venus is in sensitive, empathetic Pisces. Finding the balance between these very different sides of her nature can be challenging. Adding to the complexity are two Pluto aspects . . . Pluto squares her Moon and is inconjunct her Sun. Experience with Pluto leads me to call this the “obsession factor”.
She has another challenging natal aspect that I suspect comes into play here too: Neptune/Jupiter inconjunct her Mercury in Taurus. This particular aspect can present a challenge in discerning the truth. Neptune as we know is great at clouding any issue he touches and Jupiter can amplify a situation and have us thinking something is more critical than it actually is. Finding ways to quiet the mind and gain perspective is very important. With Taurus and Sagittarius the Signs involved, I would suggest long walks in the outdoors, going for bicycle rides, doing tai chi in a park or on the beach – anything that combines physical activity, movement and Nature. Learning to become calm within is also a key tool in dealing with Pluto aspects as Pluto just loves to obsess if given an opening.
As to the synastry with her co-worker? We don’t have an accurate birth time and in this instance, that can make the difference between having a Moon in Leo (birth time of 6AM or earlier) or a Moon in Virgo if born after around 6AM. If he has a Leo Moon then they have Sun/Moon trines, giving them a lovely fire sign kiss. If he has a Virgo Moon, then their Moons will be square and a source of irritation on the emotional level. With Mercury’s semi-sextile, communication is OK but not great. They have potentially good chemistry between their respective Venus and Mars.
His Saturn is trine her Moon providing a level of support to their friendship. Her Mars in Capricorn is square his Sun/Saturn/North Node in Aries. Aries Sun is more tolerant of the push from Mars than most but with Saturn in the picture, Mars could cause the Saturn person to turn up stubborn . . . 🙂
He may have some old wounding in the area of being able to accept love as his Venus/Mercury is conjunct Chiron. This may be a factor in why the relationship is slow to develop too. A plus here is her Jupiter/Neptune are trine his Venus/Mercury/Chiron, so he may eventually find her warmth and optimistic outlook helpful in finding his way to discussing old issues with her. His Jupiter is closely trine her Sun, another indicator of friendship and a spirit of generosity between these two.
Determining if this man has his Moon in Leo or Virgo is important to gaining an overall understanding of this relationship. From what I’m seeing it would appear they can maintain a friendship easily. My suggestion to her would be start learning about the Sun/Moon/Pluto aspects in her natal chart. Often when we start delving into the riddle of Pluto in our charts we come away with a much greater understanding as to what’s driving us and that ultimately will increase our ability to be better partners in our relationships.
I choose the Chariot Tarot card for this post because it is about bringing opposing sides of ourselves into harmony allowing us to make much greater forward progress.